My name is Uzma Qadir, wife of Ahmad Ali, from the Khokhar community, residing in Sargodha. I have an F.A. (Intermediate) education. I have three children, and my husband is alive but does not want to take responsibility. He deliberately avoids working, does not provide for us, and is involved in inappropriate relationships with other women. He spends entire nights talking to them on the phone and constantly messaging them.
My eldest daughter was taken by my in-laws in her childhood, and they have raised her. My other two children are with me. My in-laws provide me with financial support as much as they can, but it is not enough. My brother is also poor and cannot accommodate me and my children. If I go to my brother’s house in distress, he and his wife tell me to leave my children behind, which I cannot do. I am helpless.
Despite my efforts to make my husband understand, he refuses to change. I suggested working at a school or learning parlor skills, but my in-laws oppose it, saying it goes against their honor. They do not allow me to work.
I came to Star Welfare Organization after my brother-in-law, who works in the media, informed me about it. My friend also told me about this organization and assured me that they help women in need. I informed my husband, in-laws, and brother-in-law about my decision. I no longer wish to stay in that house because I have suffered since my marriage, and my life has been in turmoil.
I seek shelter here as I have no money. I want to learn skills such as parlor work, sewing, or selling women's products so that I can start my own business. If my husband refuses to work, I want to be able to provide for my children myself. I request assistance in setting up a small business and receiving complete training so that I can stand on my own feet with dignity.
I am currently going through a very difficult time. You provided me shelter, and I stayed here. I have discussed my situation with you, and I am grateful that organizations like yours exist for women. Without such support, what would become of women like me?
